Students dedicated to the weight training log approach the gym with specific intent and have learned how to use the equipment to reach their goals. People who start with similar entries in their personal training diary often end up with different results . The variations are often due to varying degrees of form and technique. Successful weight training depends on commitment and form. Relationships require the same to be successful.
When starting a liaison, the first step requires sharing similar goals . Just as someone who wants to lift for bulk approaches the gym differently then someone who is interested in general fitness , people often want different things in relationships. Is it long term commitment, a romantic fling or a buddy with benefits? Getting clear from the start defuses many relationship bombs. It doesn’t have to stay that way.
People come to relationships with different capacities . Some have already done heavy work in other relationships . Some don’t know squat. If two people have very different experiences , one partner may have to encourage and support the other as they begin a new routine. Each brings strength and weakness to the workout room of union. Just look for the lug with mountains on his arms and calves as flat as the prairie and the babe with softball calves and T-stick arms.
Any lifter knows the pounds don’t matter if the form is flawed. deliberate and solid is the way. Take a break between sets. Excellent advice when dealing with issues that comes up between people. Handle one issue at a time. Don’t put to much weight on the machine. Grace in lifting offers the best reward. Graciousness in conflict resolution does the same. Is the floor covered with her laundry? Throwing them out the window gets them off the floor but is unlikely to get him anything else. Put a hamper in the room and offer encouragement and praise when the panties land in the right place. Like any good program , rewards for achieved goals are a great motivation.
Relationships evolve. Like lifting, a committed relationship requires putting in the time, doing the work and enjoying the results. Changing things up can invigorate a program and a relationship. A lifter has to be honest about where his or her deficiencies are. That is often where more attention is given. Its no different in relationship. Quick temper? Don’t expect perfection after the first set. Dedication , good form, time and the joy of effort well spent are qualities that benefit relationships.
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